One Foot In Front Of The Other

28 Dec

Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Vintage oversized sweater, printed grandpa sweater, cutoff shorts, navy flats, messy bun

Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Vintage oversized sweater, printed grandpa sweater, cutoff shorts, navy flats, messy bun

Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Vintage oversized sweater, printed grandpa sweater, cutoff shorts, navy flats, messy bun

Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Vintage oversized sweater, printed grandpa sweater, cutoff shorts, navy flats, messy bun

Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Vintage oversized sweater, printed grandpa sweater, cutoff shorts, navy flats, messy bun

I have been angry for months. Am I entitled to these feelings? I think so. Has it been constructive? Not particularly.

I grew up incapable of staying angry at loved ones for more than 24 hours (and my family and friends could attest to that). Conflict resolution, for me, has typically consisted of a convo along the lines of, “OK, lets talk about it, I love you, how about we hug it out, this was a stupid argument, can we go get 3 bottles of wine now, please?” That girl changed, and it has been really hard to keep my sadness and resentment under control lately. However, it has come time to release the negative energy and let in the light, if you will.  Not because I forgive, necessarily, but I am ready to forget and move forward. Wear some cute, comfortable shoes and put one foot in front of the other, prepared to take life as it comes.

Christmas came and went, and while it’s always a bittersweet time of year, for whatever reason, at the end of the day I am very grateful for my life…for my family and all of the beauty that surrounds me. I want to enjoy the blessings I have been given, and celebrate. There is enough animosity going around right now, and my “problems” are pretty small in the grand scheme of things. Not only that, but as a result of recent projects I am seeing how badly the world needs LOVE and support. Why waste my time hating and hurting, when I could be spreading joy, happiness, and focusing more on what’s actually important? 

I am working with a small team to help an amazing mother of four, who is very ill with the rare disease, scleroderma. Please check out Stephanie’s story. Any contribution counts. Social sharing is just as important as monetary donations – so please, please join us in helping to spread the word for a family, and friend, in need. It would mean the world to this awe-inspiring crew…the kids need their mamma. Just click here and share the video on your Facebook page. <3 Christmas may have come and gone, but the season for giving is year-round. 

As humans we must not forget how important it is to feel. Not just for ourselves, but others as well. Feeling comes with both positive and negative emotions, naturally, and we shouldn’t necessarily shy away any of it – we were built this way for a reason. But we should also try our hardest to channel our feelings, and do something good with them. Life is short, and it is also what we make of it. Be good to others. LOVE. If you don’t know how, now is as good a time as any to try and figure it out.

“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.” -F. Scott Fitzgerald

Anger is a burden that will only set us back, as a community…LOVE and KINDNESS are what ultimately define us as human beings. We will experience trials and tribulations but we don’t have to let them derail us. I, for one, have decided to make an early NY resolution and kick my roadblocks aside, and continue to move forward. Being able to do so while wearing cute shoes is a bonus (thank you, Aerosoles!). You’ll likely find that in letting go of anger, more joy and contentment will come into your heart. When you are filled with love, you will give off love…and that is what we need these days – people who can be kind, who want to help, and will do what they can to work toward building a better world.

*head to toe: vintage grandpa sweater, LNA tank, Rag & Bone cutoff shorts, Aerosoles Trend Setter ballet flats

Photos by Jonothan Mariande

It’s In The Bag

21 Dec

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New York City, LA, SF: Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: In the bag, daily blogger essentials, burgundy leather tote, VUSE Vibe vape

I am one of those gals who never leaves home without all her essentials in tow…a notorious “bag lady”, if you will. As a result, I’ve become a huge fan of oversized totes and enormous satchels, which I jam-pack to the brim with personal necessities to kick off busy days that, oftentimes, feel never-ending. And it all starts by being fully prepared for whatever madness might get thrown my way.

From lip balms and lotions to a good pair of sunnies, my cell phone, keys, wallet, cigarettes (or, lately, my favorite vape, VUSE VIBE), and of course a quality notebook so I can document my miscellaneous, meandering thoughts while on-the-move. I do my best to show up, chin held high, and ready for action…that’s how I manage to run a growing business. Gotta learn how to hustle, especially if you decide to go out on your own!

Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: VUSE Vibe vape, ecig, what's in my bag, velour skirt, leather notebook, fresh cut flowers, best headphones, daily essentials

Life doesn’t slow down, so we must manage to keep up in order to avoid a crash. One way I’ve been able to do so, after bouncing around nonstop for 12 years and living in four of the craziest cities in the world, is by making sure I am stocked and ready to conquer every time I step foot outside the door.

Yep, I am a smoker, and have been for years. But VUSE VIBE does genuinely offer a different experience compared to traditional smokes. To be clear, I am not encouraging anyone to begin vaping, but if you are a smoker looking for an alternative to cigarettes, try out VUSE VIBE’s nectar flavor – one of their many delightful options – it’s pretty much the bomb. And I love how simple it is spin on a new flavor to match my mood…a solid variety!

Bottom line is, here’s what I carry around to keep me ready for anything. I’ve learned to do what I’ve gotta do while trying to stay as classy as possible. Be chic, sleek, discreet, and smell. And don’t forget the other important things you need, as previously mentioned. Especially a notebook! We’ll actually want to remember these hectic moments one day. Or at least have our experiences written down somewhere so we can reference them later on in life when things start to feel dull and chaos becomes a thing of the past.

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Only Fools Are Satisfied

18 Dec

Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Madonna Inn, Austrian Suite, Marie Antoinette, silk nightie, ombre hair, pajama photoshoot

Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Madonna Inn, Austrian Suite, Marie Antoinette, silk nightie, ombre hair, pajama photoshoot

Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Madonna Inn, Austrian Suite, Marie Antoinette, silk nightie, ombre hair, pajama photoshoot

Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Madonna Inn, Austrian Suite, Marie Antoinette, silk nightie, ombre hair, pajama photoshoot

Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Madonna Inn, Austrian Suite, Marie Antoinette, silk nightie, ombre hair, pajama photoshoot

For the record, there is very little planning that goes into my blog posts, and they all mean something to me. These photos were shot after a sleepless night I spent working (I happen to suffer from insomnia), while on a recent road trip up the coast with a very special person who I am lucky to have in my life. My smeared makeup was the result of an unwashed face from the evening before when I got dolled up in over-the-top attire and ate a steak with 3 martinis while watching an older couple conquer the empty dance floor. So much fun.

What you see here is a series of small documentations from real experiences and a glimpse into my weird world.

I shoot on the fly, and wear what I would be wearing if I didn’t have a blog. Yes, you will find a sponsored post here and there, but even though I am dirt ass broke at the moment, I would never promote something insincerely.

I started OnTheRacks almost nine years ago, and it has always been a side project I’ve maintained because I genuinely love it. I will never be the most popular gal on the internet for multiple reasons, one of them being that I’m not willing to sacrifice my authenticity. This is a platform where I can be who I am and share my experiences with likeminded, down-to-earth individuals who might enjoy reading about some crazy girl’s life because, to an extent, it resembles their own. I just want to keep it real and hopefully provide others with a reminder that they are incredible by encouraging self-acceptance…flaws and all. Nobody’s perfect.

Perhaps these photos were wonderfully shot, when the light was just right, and sure, it may look like I am living in a fairytale sometimes. But smoke, mirrors and fine photography aside, this incredible, golden headboard is actually made of plastic, and the hotel is in the middle of nowhere and as kitschy as they come. However, that is what makes it so charming, in my opinion! IMPERFECTION.

The Madonna Inn is about fantasy, themes, and transporting yourself to a different world, where you can temporarily escape reality, with its gaudy decor and imaginary elegance. I am not Marie fucking Antoinette, but I certainly felt like it for a hot second while rolling around in this extravagant bedroom setting, wearing a silk negligee, and being told I am beautiful.

People frequently message me with congratulatory notes about my “success” but, while I do feel proud of my accomplishments to date and am always flattered by the kind words, I still have a long way to go before I’d call it that. We’ll all get there, so long as we remain passionate and willing to work hard.

At the same time, these past few months have been wearing away at my soul for a number of reasons (I’ve touched upon a few of them already here and here). Along with kind comments, I also encounter animosity for “sharing too much”. This is my platform and I don’t feel bad for expressing my emotions, in a respectful, appropriate manner. For those who have felt offended, please know that I am suffocating under a mountain of pain and betrayal, with many details that do remain undisclosed, because I have class, respect, and some dignity (though I was also robbed of quite a bit, to be frank). I am human. And I happen to be a human who is cordial, intelligent, loving, forgiving and thoughtful. I won’t apologize for having a voice. If you don’t want to read what I have to say…don’t.

I like to take the high road, as my amazing parents taught me to do, knowing that not every scenario will work out in my favor.  I cannot complain about life – I’m no different from anyone else who faces ongoing, day-to-day hardships. I’ve put my photos and thoughts on the internet for my own reasons, but that doesn’t make me superior, nor does it make me right, per se…but I am still allowed to share them.

When I think about my friends, family, colleagues and even strangers I encounter, I like to believe that we are all innately kind-hearted at our cores, and just trying to get by…we’re doing our best.

As Billy Joel says in the song posted above, “You can’t be everything you want to be before your time.” My friend Liz also describes the message I’m trying to share perfectly in her Instagram bio, “Don’t compare your behind the scenes life with other people’s highlight reel.” So true.

Lately I feel the internet is encouraging a distorted view about what life should be like, rather serving as a platform for inspiration, support, and open conversation – something we need now more than ever. There are many bloggers who post staged content, laced with glitter, portraying a false reality of what life should be. Superiority complexes are masked by illusions of rainbows and butterflies, and updates about cupcakes are hypnotizing followers for the sake of getting that extra “like”. But there are also a handful of content creators who aren’t playing that game. It bums me out that there’s now a stigma attached to the whole thing.

I have a therapist in NYC who I do video chats with on the regs. She keeps me “sane”. A friend asked me the other day if I thought she needed to see a psychologist because she continuously pushes away men and, when meeting new people, she’ll try and and scope out a dark side before looking for their light. She also happens to be one of the most grounded, level-minded people I know, but my answer was a solid “yes”. I feel that all of us can benefit from talking about our lives with someone qualified to provide insights as to why we might be feeling certain things or acting out of character. Sometimes it is hard to pin down what is triggering specific emotions, and it’s good to vocalize what’s going on in our busy minds. Not only to help figure out why you feel a certain ways, but also what you can do to improve and live a happier life. Nobody should feel a need to trap their demons…it’ll only make them multiply. So whether you choose to do so on the internet, with a parent, sibling, friend, behind closed doors with a professional, or all of the above…vent.

I have been going to therapy for as long as I can remember, but it wasn’t until I met the right woman, back when I was living in the City about 3 years ago, that I finally got it. Finding a good shrink is seriously a lot like dating – it took me ages to meet “my match”. But now that I have it’s significantly transformed my general outlook. She’s the reason I started writing (and, sure, sometimes rambling). Now I have a closet filled with journals, and some of the content isn’t even that bad. I’m also working on a bigger literary project as, thanks to her, writing has become my favorite pastime.

To sum it up, remember that you are unique and rad, just as you are. But stay grounded and acknowledge the things  you want to improve upon. Don’t stop trying. We all have weaknesses, and the ones who pretend they don’t are probably in a lot more trouble than those who aren’t scared to admit it.

Don’t be ashamed to express yourself! If you’re genuinely happy, awesome and congratulations. But if you want more, don’t settle with where you’re at because that’s where society says you’re supposed to be. Forget the rules. Something or someone good will come along, trust me. If you live with bright eyes, an open heart, ambition, honesty, love (for yourself and others), and an ongoing desire to move forward, eventually the broken pieces will fall into place.

Keep your passion. Keep your pride. Keep on dreaming. And remember that “only fools are satisfied”. You aren’t a fucking fool.

Keep On Truckin’

1 Dec

Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Denim on denim, boyfriend jeans, oversized jacket, vinatage truck, west coast roadtrip
Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Denim on denim, boyfriend jeans, oversized jacket, vinatage truck, west coast roadtrip
Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Denim on denim, boyfriend jeans, oversized jacket, vinatage truck, west coast roadtrip
Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Denim on denim, boyfriend jeans, oversized jacket, vinatage truck, west coast roadtrip
Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Denim on denim, boyfriend jeans, oversized jacket, vinatage truck, west coast roadtrip
Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Denim on denim, boyfriend jeans, oversized jacket, vinatage truck, west coast roadtrip

I have been doing some personal reflection lately, after falling into a somewhat disgruntled frame of mind — a state of being which has actually become an unwelcome tradition for me this time of year. It tends to start out that way, at least…

When it comes to my personality, I’m stubborn and far from complacent. In describing myself as such I am not being self-deprecating — the opposite, in fact. When things go wrong, I do everything possible to try and find a solution. 2016, however, has probably been my strangest year to date (and trust me when I say there have been some pretty weird ones). The past 11 months were filled with experiences I will never be able to comprehend or resolve. Some of them terrible and some of them beautiful beyond words. Throughout the process, I have learned to accept that not every problem has a solution and that, in itself, is a big step. Also, I am now capable of finding joy in the “little things” I used to disregard. Don’t let a day go by without looking around and appreciating what you have. Sometimes its the fleeting moments and unexpected memories that pull you through tough times.

When I find I’m falling into a rut, I have to credit myself for never ceasing to at least make an attempt to do something about it. I’ve traveled — roaming around Europe, as I did last year, or taking a road trip, like I have done many times before. Nothing clears my mind and helps me organize my thoughts more than going on a road trip – driving anywhere, everywhere, nowhere…taking in new surroundings and getting to know inspiring people on a deeper level, along the way.

Everyone sees life through a different lens, and has gone through something you have not. I am a firm believer that we can never stop learning from others, if we approach the world with an unbiased mind and a welcoming heart. You’ll meet the right ones when you least expect it. Maybe they’ll open your eyes to an important part of life you were previously blind to. Perhaps you’ll find yourself revived by a story that moves you or be inspired by their unique approach to viewing the world and overcoming hardships.

While I by no means look forward to this recurring loss of creative energy, inevitably accompanied by an indescribable feeling of emptiness, I must say that each time I have gone through it (and done something about it) in the past, I have come out more revitalized and prepared for what is yet to come — in life, love, loss and any other unpredicted twist or turn.

Life is fucking weird, and it’s also what we make of it. So I decided to head out, yet again, on a random journey…starting with a night the hills of Malibu, sleeping in a Mongolian yurt at Great Spirits Ranch (highly recommend). After that I continued up North for a week and a half…spontaneously stopping at a couple familiar spots, while also seeing a few incredible new ones. I find it best to steer clear of redundancy. Travel and taking in the new will help fill those empty gaps and put you back on the right path, even if it is a different one than you expected to be on.

I learned a lot along the way and look forward to sharing more about the rest of my journey…stay tuned!

*head to toe: Ray-ban Clubmaster sunglasses, Citizens of Humanity boyfriend jacket, The 5th Brooklyn watch, T by Alexander Wang Superfine v-neck tee, Citizens of Humanity Melanie wide-leg crop jeans, Jacob Ankle boot via Urban Outfitters, Ringo the Dog via @RingoKnows

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On The Prowl

11 Nov

Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Necktie blouse, wide-leg silk pants, cocktail attire, West Village loft, champagne, strappy sandals, ombre hair
Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Necktie blouse, wide-leg silk pants, cocktail attire, West Village loft, champagne, strappy sandals, ombre hair
Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Necktie blouse, wide-leg silk pants, cocktail attire, West Village loft, champagne, strappy sandals, ombre hair
Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Necktie blouse, wide-leg silk pants, cocktail attire, West Village loft, champagne, strappy sandals, ombre hair
Los Angeles, NYC Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Necktie blouse, wide-leg silk pants, cocktail attire, West Village loft, champagne, strappy sandals, ombre hair

While in NYC, I had the pleasure of teaming up with an awesome UK-based company, SpareRoom, as they take their recent US expansion by storm. The founder is an awesome dude, Rupert Hunt, who’s just hopped his way across the pond, moving from London to Manhattan, and is renting an incredible loft on Bleecker (where these photos were taken).

Rupert is a firm believer that life is more fulfilling when shared with the right people…a sentiment I can certainly get on board with (whether we’re talking about roommates, friends, or any other little life enjoyments). SO, Mr. Hunt decided to launch a campaign to find two roommates to enjoy his new luxury loft with at a rent cost of just $1 a month…fo real.

While the opportunity to score one of those golden spots has sadly come and gone, there’s gonna be more where that came from as they continue to grow!

SpareRoom is an incredible service that’ll help you find the perfect person / people to build a happy home with, whether you are looking to move or have a vacant room you need to fill. I know firsthand how tough this can be in the city…so consider them your saving grace.

If you live in NYC and are on prowl for the right people for a space-share, be sure to swing by one of their weekly Speed Roommating events (yep, kinda like speed dating, but without the awkwardness and pressure). Extra bonus is my dear friend David coordinates them and he’s super fun! So if nothing else you’ll walk away with a rad new buddy at the end of the evening.

head to toe: Zara neck-tie blouse (similar style HERE), HALSTON Heritage lightweight flowy culotte w/ slits (similar style HERE), Bernardo Blythe ankle strap sandals

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In A New York Minute

23 Oct

New York City, Los Angeles Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Lower East Side street style, oversized sweater, grey loose-fit tank top, burgundy tote, cropped denim, white mules, dog blog
New York City, Los Angeles Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Lower East Side street style, oversized sweater, grey loose-fit tank top, burgundy tote, cropped denim, white mules, dog blog
New York City, Los Angeles Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Lower East Side street style, oversized sweater, grey loose-fit tank top, burgundy tote, cropped denim, white mules, dog blog
New York City, Los Angeles Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Lower East Side street style, oversized sweater, grey loose-fit tank top, burgundy tote, cropped denim, white mules, dog blog
New York City, Los Angeles Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Lower East Side street style, oversized sweater, grey loose-fit tank top, burgundy tote, cropped denim, white mules, dog blog

Spent the past month or so in NYC, which you may have noticed…depends if you follow me on Instagram (hint, hint, wink, nudge)! Pretty sure I’ve never pulled off NOT staying in that beautiful, bloodsucking city at least 3x longer than I initially plan to. I think an hour in New York is kind of like five days in “real people” time…sort of as if you are moving at the speed of light, but without really noticing it. Without my 12 trusty Moleskines and Google Calendars I’d never stay on track. How I survived 5 years in the City is still a mystery to me…and props to my many strong and amazing friends’s who’ve been kicking ass out there for way longer.

That said, I actually do tend amaze myself with the amount of work (and damage) I’m able to accomplish while time-warping. I arrived, clocked some solid business hours, somehow managed to turn 29 years old, and now here I am, back in California…a little older, a lot more confused, and slowing down to process it all.

Special shout to my main man, Ringo, who was the best copilot ever — he took on the Big Apple like a champ. And so much love to my dear friends who let us crash on their couches, took me out and went along with my insisting it was NOT my birthday (but still let me win at ping pong), and the inspiring people I got to work with along the way…Amina, health coach/wonder woman/founder of Busy Happy Healthy, Art from Look Ave., Rupert from SpareRoom and a handful of others.

It really is amazing what can happen in a New York minute…let alone 3+ weeks. I never come back the same, but am starting to think that’s actually a part of the magic. Perhaps learning to embrace change, and welcome whatever surprises the universe decides to throw your way, might not be such a bad thing after all.

*head to toe: Stone & Strand diamond stud earrings, & Other Stories oversized wool cardigan, GANT Diamond G Solid Strap top, Zara zip up tote (similar style HERE) Mother Denim Insider crop jeans, loq mules (similar style HERE)

 

P.S. (!!!) Amina, author and wellness wizard is gearing up for what is going to be an AH-MAZING 21-day Health Venture. She’s worked wonders for me already and I am so excited to do a little detoxification before the holidays hit. Click HERE to sign up and enter code OnTheRacks15 at check out to save some $$. Join me, why don’t ya?!

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Let It Burn

1 Oct

Los Angeles, NYC, Paris Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Flower child, linen hippie top, bell-sleeved crop top, embroidered shorts, beach hair, black suede sandals
Los Angeles, NYC, Paris Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Flower child, linen hippie top, bell-sleeved crop top, embroidered shorts, beach hair, black suede sandals
Los Angeles, NYC, Paris Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Flower child, linen hippie top, bell-sleeved crop top, embroidered shorts, beach hair, black suede sandals
Los Angeles, NYC, Paris Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Flower child, linen hippie top, bell-sleeved crop top, embroidered shorts, beach hair, black suede sandals

“She has been through hell, so believe me when I say, fear her when she looks into a fire and smiles.” -E. Corona

We all face struggle and hardships, and handle things differently. People hurt in varying ways and my personal opinion is there is no right or wrong way to feel.

Sometimes we cry and crumble, genuinely believing we won’t be able to put the broken pieces back together the way they once were. I used to feel this way all the time. Then I realized I could view a difficult situation as an opportunity to rebuild a stronger version of myself instead…someone less fragile.

Some of us are more vocal about our emotions than others — we kick and we scream, and see to it that our voices are heard loud and clear. People might call it anger, but what’s wrong with being angry when someone hurts you? Under the circumstances I speak of, I call it strength, awareness, and self-respect. I am not a cruel or negative person. In fact, I consider myself the exact opposite. But I have been forced to evolve into a woman who can protect herself, because I’m tired of being stomped on.

A writer I love, Janne Robinson, posted something on her Instagram the other day that I loved. She said:

“If he’s the guy, nothing you can say will ever fuck it up. You cannot do love wrong.
We have emotional needs–be needy.
Be “too much” or say the wrong things.
Fuck, we all say the wrong fucking things. And how many of us don’t use protest behaviour and distancing techniques and likely games–and all of these are trying to protect us from “doing it wrong” and being hurt or hurting somebody. Your person will see you trying to sabotage or withholding communicating something hard and create a loving space for it to be heard. Your person will want to exceed your emotional needs. Your person will not be able to get enough of you. They will hold you kicking and screaming into commitment and intimacy if you need it and when you ask why, they will just smile and wonder how you cannot see your brilliance, worth and beauty.

Say too much, say too little–you cannot do love wrong, you cannot fuck up the unfuckable and love is the strongest thing alive.”

AMEN, SISTER. When you live in fear of fucking up, you aren’t in the loving relationship you deserve. When you are expressing yourself and being so brave that you can share your heart, but receive shame for so, you could be in a dangerous place. Get out.

So feel what you want to feel, say what you want to say, do what you want to do (just make sure you don’t become a walking contradiction, and continue to respect the feelings of others if you want yours to be respected). If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. End of story.

“Leave it alone. The past is the past,” he said. He spoke and I listened. I agreed he was right.

*head to toe:TIGI beach spray, NARS lip crayon in Biscayne Park, Free People Mi Corazon top & shorts set, Bernardo ankle strap sandals

Photography by Alexandra Petruck