“For what it’s worth: It’s never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start over.” — F. Scott Fitzgerald
It is my 28th birthday. And, no, I am not fishing for birthday wishes (but sure, go ahead, have at it), I am actually hoping to say something of significance. While I am far from a legendary rockstar, I am proud that I proved the haters and worriers wrong in not joining the “27 Club”, and am ready to start anew. Perhaps I say this often, but what better time than when you turn one year older, right?
This quote by F. Scott Fitzgerald has always been one of my favorites because I feel society places so much pressure on us to be a certain way. It sets up this ideal life that we should all allegedly strive for…a life that fits within some specific, insignificant timeframe. Whether it’s that, as women, we should have started to build a family by 25, or that, as men, you should be making a certain salary doing a job you may or may not even be passionate about. It’s bullshit.
Do I want a family? Yes. Do I need to be told that I should have a husband and two kids at my age already? No, thanks. At the end of the day, I want to live a life I am proud of, whatever this might entail. I am not sure when I will get there, but it is good to know I’m on my way (even if I did choose a roundabout route).
I am one who thinks with my HEART and acts based on what it tells me to do. And then I let my head figure things out afterward. Maybe this doesn’t make sense to a lot of people, but I have no desire to change the fact that the majority of my decisions are primarily driven by passion and emotion. I’ve come to trust my heart enough to know that I can usually tack some form of logic onto the “illogical” moves I make. And when I fuck up, at least I’ll learn a meaningful lesson along the way.
I think we are all just doing the best we can, need to believe in ourselves, and each other, a little more (or be able to identify the people who are unworthy of believing in before they break us), and accept that it is OK to throw caution to the wind from time to time. The way I see it, so long as you live your life with kind intentions, sincere ambitions, and an open mind, often times you can wipe the slate clean and start fresh if you feel you’ve made a wrong turn. Every morning you can wake up, get out of bed, and try something new.
*head to toe: Janessa Leone hat, H&M lightweight coat (similar style here), Zara bow top (other awesome bow-embellished blouses I am loving), Strathberry Navy Tote, Big Star Denim skinny jeans, Kelsi Dagger Lupita sandals
Photos by Miss Olivia Lopez